# Don’t reply to anyone who tells you to calm down, you won’t # Physically distance yourself from the situation # Create a mental diversion by counting to 10 SLOWLY and deeply # Tighten the muscles in your body and then gently release them # Try to rationalise the situation at hand AFTER following these
Managing boredom in a long term relationship Why are you bored? Most of us have experienced the wild, out of control feeling at the beginning of a new romance. Our heart races, we get that addictive adrenaline rush, and all we want to do is be with that person. This is passion at its most
How to end a relationship gracefully There are lots of reasons why relationships end, but generally, infidelity, bad timing and lack of chemistry are the most common. Ending a relationship can be one of the most difficult things to do but it can also be ultimately the most liberating because it allows you and your
Arguing – change the outcome #Know what you want resolved. Otherwise you will continually go around in circles, without knowing what you want resolved. So often, we expect our partners to fix our anger and hurt, expecting that they will automatically know how to fix our issues without knowing what these issues even are. This
Identify your arguing style Don’t fight dirty. Everyone argues and has conflict from time to time. Arguments can be really upsetting for both of you and depending on how you treat one another during conflicts, they will either bring you closer together or have the potential to increase the emotional distance between you. Arguments have
HR managers, are experiencing higher levels of stress than pre Covid. They are being tasked with jobs they haven’t faced before. HR managers are being thrust into a ‘parenting’ role for organisations. Staff are increasingly turning to HR to manage their anxieties regarding social distancing, sanitation and hygiene. Interpersonal relationships at work are becoming fraught
By Louisa Niehaus Of course you are going to be anxious during these unprecedented times. We have no form of reference, nothing to compare this to. Your anxiety is TOTALLY NORMAL. One way of managing your anxiety is to accept it, own it, face that you are responding to a highly unusual set of circumstances.
By Louisa Niehaus This isn’t going to be an article that propels you to search deeper or achieve more. Instead, I am going to ask you to walk a path with me, to challenge your mindset, as well as your belief system. Chances are that you, dear reader, are past the school or tertiary education
Men and women are different… and yet the same. Both sexes go through mid-life crises, but with differences. In the third episode of Lifehacks with Louisa, you’ll find out about: The reasons behind a mid-life crisis; How you can minimise the fallout from your mid-life crisis; and How men and women behave differently.
It’s the old cliché: “Once a midlife crisis enters your life, your marriage is doomed.” It doesn’t necessarily have to be this way. Lifehacks with Louisa episode 2 is here to give you some insight into how mid-life crisis affects marriages. You’ll also have access to questions that you can ask yourself about your marriage
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]A mid-life crisis is usually depicted as a ridiculous time of a person’s life, but did you know that it can help you to take stock of your life and give clarity for the many wonderful years you have ahead of you? Join me for the first ever podcast episode of Lifehacks with Louisa and
It’s true, I would much rather interact with a people pleaser than I would the opposite. If we are honest, most of us prefer engaging with pleasant, friendly people who go the extra mile to accommodate or help you. However, for the people pleaser, it’s not that great being trapped in the Teflon mould that
Do you associate burnout with harassed corporate executives? If so, you are wrong. Burnout can affect anyone from students to parents, athletes, entrepreneurs and yes executives. What are the signs? Excessive tiredness, despite rest Relying on sugar, alcohol, caffeine, sports drinks to keep your energy levels up Cynicism is
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]At the end of the year, we want to let our hair down, kick our shoes off, lessen the stress…. Don’t be tempted to overdo things at your office function. If you intend staying at your job, remember you still have to work with these people and you WILL have to face them again. Hopefully
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]I know that with the holidays coming up, lots of people both look forward to and dread the holiday period. Holidays are supposed to fabulous, lots of fun, happiness, doing cool stuff, laughter, joy etc. In reality it isn’t always such a blast….. The expectation of making your holiday a good one, is stressful in
I recently spoke about Phobias on Radio 702, South Africa. I have had some requests for further detail on phobias. Also to understand whether there is a link between childhood phobias and autism. Phobias What are they? A specific phobia is a type of anxiety disorder defined as an extreme or irrational fear of or